dad have you played online? 9 years old? at 9 hes the child, your vote over rules his. he might think it would be more fun to play in the street, you have to over rule him. makae him play career first and learn the game. if you’ve been online you know what the language is like, you know how immature alot of the people are, the verbal abuse he’ll take, the insults he’s gonna get, etc… it might not be right but we both know whats going to happen. you have fore knowledge. you are going to blame the people online, but you are the one putting the 9 year old in that enviroment. you are responaible too. they dont know your grand son, they are not responsible for you. you are. parental controls are bult into xboxes for a reason, use them.
there are options. you take control. there are enough assists you can keep the gas floored and push the stick in the direction of the track/turn. the throttleing and braking will be on auto pilot. to get any easier there would have to be a “press a to automatically win.” if there will be thousands just like him start a private lobby for him and other children who wont be trading graphic stories about each others mothers sex lives, where the words please and thank you dont exist but you can learn to cuss in 20 different languages in a week. do you really want to give him verbal abuse for christmas? if not then dont. there is a point where you will have to choose between being the custodian and the best friend. you better error on the side of being custodian, failing that, failing to provide a safe and healthy enviroment is abuse. in a utopia if he woke up hungry in the middle of the night he could grab a dollar and walk to the store to grab a snack taking short cuts thru the alleys and be perfectly safe. we dont live in a utopia, we teach our kids stranger danger for good reason. there are strangers on xbox live…thousands of them.
he’s a child. you are the adult. you are responsible. you can expect your self to act like the adult or you can expect every player on live to act like an adult. you can control yourself, the xbox and your child. you cant control the other people on live. and you might as well expect santa to get stuck in your chimney tonight as to expect everybody on live to act adult, they have about the same chance of happening. you better jump on the option you have control over, the stuff between your xbox and sofa. its the only option you can get a decent result with. if you refuse the only control you have and let live take control…like you said…thousands and thousands of children. you have to be the chaperone. and yes you at times are going to have to be the bad guy in your childs openion, you are going to have to use the word no. but trust me the kid is gonna be much better off with you being the good bad guy as opposed to all the bad bad guys online.